The tradition of the veil on a bride has many back-stories. Some say it started in ancient Rome to confuse the evil spirits who may try to steal her away from the groom. Some say it was to disguise the bride before the wedding of an arranged marriage, this way if he saw something he didn’t like he wouldn’t run away. It is also said that the lifting of the blusher veil is so the groom knows he is marrying the right woman. There are so many variations on the story, but today the veil is more an accessory to the gown.
My best friend recently got engaged and has put me in charge of making her wedding gown and veil. As her Maid-of-Honor it is my duty to see what would look best on her and work with her taste. I know she likes lace, being a pretty traditional girl, so that’s what I went with. Looking in various bridal stores I noticed how expensive beautiful lace edged veils can be! They can be anywhere as much as $300 on up! So I’m going to describe how I made a beautiful antique looking lace veil that my friend could use on her big day without the big price tag.
Note: I chose a length a little longer than the fingertip. It is double layered with the top layer being about 8″ shorter than the under-layer. Choose a length that works for you, I’m going to give directions for fingertip length though.
Measure the length from where you want the veil to start, to your knee.
Fold the tulle in half and use the folded edge as the top of the veil (where the comb will be sewn). Fold this piece in half length wise. From the top of the folded edge (comb edge) measure the length you used for the head to knee.
Mark with pins a quarter oval. Make it a little wider at the top than the bottom to give it a more full look. When you are happy with the shape, cut it out.
Unfold the piece (leave the top and bottom layers folded together) so you now have a half oval shape. Take the top layer and mark with pins about 8″-10″ up from the edge. Cut it shorter but still keep the shape of the bottom layer.
Now the fun begins, you get to glue on the lace! This will take patience and time, it cannot be rushed! You can also opt to sew the lace on with a machine. Line the edge of the scallop up with the edge of the tulle and pin in place if sewing, pin it as you glue otherwise.
Once you have the lace attached (and it has dried overnight) you can set the pearls or rhinestones (or both if you so choose).
If you used a scalloped edge lace as I have, be sure to cut the excess tulle from the scallops for a cleaner look.
The nice thing about the veil is that you can choose to use lace as I did here, leave the tulle plain (like I did for my own wedding), use rattail cord (1mm or 2mm), beaded trims, or a thin ribbon edge. You can personalize your veil to match your dress and it won’t cost a fortune.
My husband and I were originally not going to use unity candles, but I thought it would be a nice thing to incorporate into our short ceremony. Unity candles are used to represent the love of the two families for the Bride and Groom coming together as one happy family. Usually there are two taper candles and one pillar. The parents of the bride and groom light the tapers and in turn the bride and groom light the pillar candle with the tapers making the union complete.
I used a pretty taffeta ribbon that has a great sheen to it and accented with a coordinating rhinestone button. You can pick any ribbon/button combo you like, I just happen to love purple colors, so that’s what I used here.
Note: Before you look into having a unity candle, be sure to ask your venue if you can have live flames from candles. Some places will not allow them.
Wrap the ribbon around the pillar candle and tie into a bow. Sew the rhinestone button to the middle of the knot. The same technique can be used for the taper candles as well, the rhinestone button can be left off the tapers and just a simple small bow tied towards the bottom.
Using silk ribbons, it’s so easy to match the flower girl’s dress to the flower basket. Rhinestone buttons can be added to give it that extra elegant finish. This is a great idea for brides who are looking for something easy yet still beautiful for her flower girl. You can choose silk ribbon colors that match with your wedding theme. All you have to do is tie the bow onto the dress and stitch the ribbon onto the wedding basket. Then finish it off with a glistening Swarovski rhinestone button and you’re all finish.
Cake jewelry is a popular item that Brides call me for daily. Although M&J Trimming don’t sell premade cake jewelry, you can easily use M&J products to create your own custom look. When I was browsing through M&J for ideas for the blog, I noticed these gorgeous crystal spray and pearl sprays. I was inspired immediately!
Take the sprays and arrange them so the stems are all lined up and the sprays create nice large flower look. Tape the top, middle, and bottom to secure for wiring. Take a piece of beading wire and wrap it (starting at the top) around the stems until you reach the bottom, clip the excess wire. You can then simply place the new large stem directly into the cake.
Another way to do it is to take one stem, surround it with 4 stems positioned slightly lower (by 1″), position the remaining 7 stems around those 4 another inch lower. Tape and wrap the same way as before. This will create a tiered firework effect with the sprays.
If you want a fuller look, try 2 or even 3 packs of sprays. You can also mix the rhinestone sprays with the pearl sprays for a multi-textured look. Rhinestone buttons can be added to the tiers with ribbon to carry the cake topper look to the rest of the cake.
Silk flower and midori ribbon featured in Martha Stewart Wedding Fall 2008
Silk Rose (Left): Sea Foam #31907
Silk Rose (Right): Sage Green #31905
Midori Double Fact Satin Ribbon: Sea Foam #37307
23MM MESH TUBE RIBBON #36878. Call 1.800.9.MJTRIM to order or for more information on availabe colors.
White Pearls #11825
16MM Imported Double Face Satin Box Pleated # 33564
The hottest trend it seems lately is that brides are heading towards shades of gray for the new accent color. They are incorporating into everything ranging from the invites to the wedding dress itself! I decided to create a simple pair of shoe clips done in this hot new shade to show how versatile it can be.
Shoe clips were at their most popular during the Victorian era, they were used to dress up your shoes, but could also be clipped to hats, scarves, and bags. I’m a huge fan of shoe clips, I usually make my own using mostly buttons and ribbons, but I do have a few vintage pairs too. Why not try to make a pair today, you’ll quickly see how addictive it is to own a ‘new’ pair of shoes!
- You will need 2 pieces of ribbon measuring 8 inches and two measuring 3 inches.
- Fold the ends of the 8″ ribbon towards the middle and glue in place with Unique Stitch Glue, then take the 3″ piece and fold over the ends about ¼” and glue in place. Wrap the small 3″ piece around the center of the long folded piece to cover the seam, glue in place.
- Take your needle and thread and sew the shoe clip to the back of the ribbon. You can use E6000 as well, but I find that the thread holds up better over time.
- Take your rhinestone button and clip off the shank back (the small metal loop on the back). Clip it as close to the back of the button as you can, a little extra remaining is okay, so long as the button lays flat.
- Glue your button to the middle of the front of the ribbon.
- Let everything dry overnight.
- Clip on and look gorgeous!
The mothers of the bride and groom are just as important as the couple, if it wasn’t for them, you probably wouldn’t be the person you are today. Why not give your mom something she will be able to use again? Corsages are a great way to get crafty. I made one from 50mm Velvet ribbon in Scarlet with Moss leaves. This was very easy to make and only took about 20 minutes. I then sewed on a pin back (item #32247) to anchor it to a 16mm velvet ribbon wrist tie. This way, after the wedding, the rose can be worn on a jacket, pinned to a pillow, or added to a purse!
· 1 yd of 50mm Velvet Ribbon - Scarlet (flower)
· Two 6” pieces of 50 Velvet Ribbon – Moss (leaves)
· 1 Pin Back #32247 – 1 ¼” Nickel
· ½ yard 16mm Velvet Ribbon – Scarlet (wrist tie)
· Matching threads for ribbon colors
Start by threading your needle with the flower colored thread. Make a knot on the end. Start threading through the bottom edge of the length of the ribbon until you reach the end – about 1 stitch every ¼’. Pull the ribbon down the thread until it is scrunched up all the way, knot the thread securely.
Simply roll the ribbon into a flower shape and sew the bottom together to keep it’s shape (from the underside).
The leaves are a little trickier. Start by threading your needle with the leaf color thread. You have to take the ribbon in the middle top edge and pinch it to a point, sew the point down. Now you have to gather the ends and shape them with your fingers to create the leaf shape. Sew the ends to secure.You are ready to sew the leaves onto the bottom of the flower. Sew the ends of the leaves to the middle of the flower.
Sew the pin back to the middle of the flower.
Pin the flower to the wrist ribbon. You can pick a pretty keepsake box to present it to her in so she has somewhere to store it for years to come.
“Twenty- Thirty-grand. In small bills, cash. In that little silk purse.
Maron, if this was someone else’s wedding, sweet tonato!” – Godfather
Maybe you remember that line, maybe you don’t. Either way, it applies to this week’s bridal blog. While you are making your rounds talking to your guests at the reception, they are bound to hand you an envelope with a beautifully written card and sometimes a monetary gift inside. A money bag or money purse is a great way to hold those envelopes as you go table to table. It will make giving hugs, kisses, and handshakes easier as the cards get more numerous. When you are done greeting your guests, simply hand the bag to your Maid-of-Honor, Best Man, or parents to hold onto. At the end of the night they can then take that home with the other gifts for you.
The money purse is also a lot safer than a card box in that you don’t need to worry about a catering hall employee or party crasher stealing the cards. While you wouldn’t think on your happiest of days, nothing like that could possibly happen, it unfortunately can. Make sure you also inquire about wedding insurance, it helps for more things than just your location getting rained out or band not showing. Try Wed Safe at www.wedsafe.com
While researching a money purse for my own wedding, I was disappointed in the styles to choose from, all were very boring and too traditional for my more modern affair. I ended up not making one due to time constraints (I was still working on making my dress). I decided instead, to show you one based on a design for my friend and her San Diego beach side wedding.
Note: Items can also be ordered by phone. 1.800.9.MJTRIM ext 377
- 16″ of ½” grosgrain ribbon (item #34377 in cream featured)
- 1 yd. 25mm imported organdy ribbon in Lt. Beige
- Button/tassel appliqué (item # 36930)
- 16″ of 1″ heavy apron tape in natural
- 1 piece 8 ½” x 22″ medium weight non-transparent silk blend fabric in a natural/champagne color
- 1 yd 2mm imported rayon twist cord in off white or antique
- Scissors, sewing machine, needle, cream/natural colored thread, straight pins, large safety pin
- Use a sheet of 8 ½ x 11″ paper as a stencil and trace 2 rectangles on your fabric. Cut out and lay on top of each other. Pin one 11″ side together and hem a ¼” inseam, backstitching at both ends. Open and press.
- With the wrong side up, pin down the twill tape about 2″ down from one of the newly created 16″ sides (this will be the top). Hem along both edges. This will later be used as a tunnel for your drawstring cord.
- With the right side facing up, pin down your cream grosgrain ribbon and hem along both edges. This piece is purely aesthetic.
- With right side facing up, pin organdy ribbon across widthwise and over where your twill tape is hemmed. This two is purely aesthetic but also will hide your twill tape if your fabric happens to be slightly transparent. Set aside the remainder of this ribbon for later.
- Fold fabric in half so your first hem remains unfolded. Pin the bottom and other side edges together and hem. On the second side hem stop and backstitch ¼ ” into the area where the twill tape and organdy ribbon meet. Restart hem ½ ” from there and continue to the end. Remember to backstitch each time you begin or finish a hem.
- Tie a knot at both ends of your twist cord to prevent fraying. Pin your safety pin into on knot and use it to jimmy your cord through the tunnel you created earlier with the twill tape.
- Turn bag inside out and press hems. Tie a bow with the remainder of your organdy ribbon and hand sew onto the center of one side of your stitched on organdy ribbon. Hand sew button tassel appliqué on top of bow.
- You are done!
While planning my wedding for spring of 2007, I was in a tizzy trying to get everything done and come up with ideas while keeping it cool with my soon to be in-laws. Floral arrangements, menu options, favors, gifts and attire were keeping me busy just about 24/7!
However, M&J made my life a bit easier since they provided such a wide variety in one place. The gorgeous silk ribbons and Swarovski rhinestones were just what I was looking for to add a little something extra special to my wedding day. I was able to glue rhinestones to all my accessories, but I had to stop short of bedazzling my cat in the excitement of it all.
I remember carefully arranging the rose stems and crystal sprays for my bouquet (while getting my hair done. Wrapping the stems with silk satin ribbon in ivory to match my dress. The result was just the way I wanted. It was a great feeling to tell my friends that I made the bouquet when they asked about it. However, I wish I had thought of using silk roses like my friend did for her bouquet. My poor bouquet that I had made is now all dried out and sad looking. Silk roses would have still looked fresh and new everyday as my husband and I grow old and wrinkled together.
Now that I work at M&J, it has been really fun and exciting for me to help soon-to-be-brides make their big day special. I’m able to lend advice on what I learned from planning my wedding and giving options on the choices they make. I look forward to making this blog helpful for all brides-to-be.